Wednesday Date Night

22 Feb

So tonight was date night. We usually go out on most Wednesday nights  It’s to a small local place a half mile or so from home.  Nothing very special, except that it is.  It’s kind of like Cheers (the fictional bar in Boston from TV) where everyone knows your name.  We order a bite to eat and a drink or two.  We’re usually home by 7:30 or so.  Just a little something we do weekly that keeps us grounded to each other and the community that surrounds us.  And lets us–a married lesbian couple–be a part of our neighborhood in a very unique way. 

It is 2012 so it’s not all that shocking any more that 2 women are married, especially in Massachusetts.  But what I think is really astounding to some people is how how happy and well suited we are with each other.  Wow, in some ways our relationship is more “normal” than normal folks.  After all the divorce rate in the US is 50% and although the unhappiness rate in “regular” marriages is not calculated, I’m thinking it’s probably higher than 50%.

Where we live is mostly small towns and rural areas. This is not exactly cosmopolitan like the bigger cities of the Northeast–say Boston or NYC.  But I believe it’s very much like most of America beyond those big cosmopolitan cities.  In spite of the political, economic, and educational differences among us we take pride in being able to discuss and debate those differences without rancor. 

There are some national and religious figures who would have you believe otherwise.  That it’s the big liberal cities that are driving these movements of otherness.   That it is where we who are different are most accepted.  That we who are different, be it because of nationality, religion, sexuality or whatever is different from the norm are a threat to Marriage and Religious values and the American way.  But I beg to differ.

 I think most Americans accept folks they live among and get to know and it really doesn’t matter the differences.

Date night down the street in a small neighborhood place says it in the most fundamental way.  They are always happy to see us and they actually miss us if we don’t make date night!


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4 Responses to “Wednesday Date Night”

  1. Debs February 23, 2012 at 11:10 pm #

    Great post, Weez! I particularly liked this one.

    • weezmccarty February 24, 2012 at 12:20 am #

      Love from the Western Mass McCarty Pack. We know that you and Sarah know how acceptance at the local level ripples outward and in the end makes a difference in the world! Thanks again for the Latin. I only took a semester of it way back in 1971 so I only remember a bit, it’s good to have an expert at hand. And you never know when I might need to call on you again… my Greek is not nearly as good!

  2. Janet March 7, 2012 at 6:47 pm #

    So true! I hate not seeing my intelligent friends on their date night. I have to say also their marriage has lasted longer than my 2! I’ve learned so much from these two. I look forward to our conversations!

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